I am the same way... He tells me I'm beautiful all the time, but I just can't help but think negatively when I look into the mirror. And I see so many other girls who r so much more beautiful than me and I have been cheated on twice and yet ive been with my current boyfriend for over 2 years.. He says he would never or could never cheat on me... And when I look into his eye I see the truth... I just keep thinking and telling myself he will leave me anyday now... It hurts a lot... I just wish I saw myself as beautiful...
Been there. Best medicine for low self esteem: Fake it 'til you make it. Get a new haircut, new clothes, start a new work out/diet regimen, and just act like you're beautiful and confident. Repeat over and over to yourself "I am beautiful" for 5 minutes a day; it feels weird but it's effective for some reason. Hold your head up, smile, look people in the eye, all the things genuinely confident people do. At some point you start looking for the reasons it's true, it stops being an act and you start believing it. You just have to know you deserve it.
I get the same way!! Lol.... Whenever I would ask my boyfriend if I was pretty he would get upset and say "yes! Quit always asking me that!" ... One day I was in one of my "low" moods and I asked him if he really liked me...he looked at me like (("here we go again")) and said "what I like is confidence".. With that said I hugged him and went on about my day.. That gets on their ((you man)) nerves always asking them if your ugly, fat,to skinny and all those other insecure questions us females want answers to.... Just realize if they didnt like you if they didnt want to be with you they wouldn't.... And also realize some guys are jerks who make you feel down when nothing is wrong with you its a mental thing ... Think positive!
I say why not just be grateful you even have a boyfriend who loves you? Some people don't have that. Think of people who have no arms and no legs or disfigured faces. They all have way worse predicaments. Think of that and you'll feel better. =)
Most girls go through this at some point in their lives - listen to your boyfriend, he is probably right. Everyone is beautiful in their own way, either inside or out. And remember, it's not what's on the outside that counts. Your boyfriend, and anyone else in your life whose opinions are worth anything, will love you for who you are, not how you look :)
I know exactly where you're coming from. I've gained a lot of weight since my marriage and my husband tells me every day that he loves me...and that I'm not fat. I can just tell by the look in his eye that he means what he says, and by the way he treats me. He is in love with me for what I am. I love him just as much. I just need to get over myself. I think it's pretty common for females to go through this. It's a self esteem matter, I know I need to work on mine.
It's hard because that negative voice within ourselves can be very strong. But next time someone tells you that you are beautiful just say thank you even if you don't really feel beautiful! Overtime you will start believing it ...because it's a habit. (Getting rid of the negative takes time)
I go through the same thing whenever I think of something negative about myself I always replace it with something positive you need to love yourself not what you look like true beauty comes within if you weren't beautiful you wouldn't have had your boyf by your side listen to him
Awww, girl. I am just like you, I swear. Me and my boyfriend get into these big discussions about me, he says I'm precious, gorgeous, beautiful, stunning, ect... And I just know I am not what he says I am. Just today we were talking about me and I got all sad all of a sudden I wanted to cry, and I told him that I felt like if he was telling me lies when he tells me that, because I know I am not pretty. He said being pretty is not only on the outside, but on the inside as well. I know that, but I feel ugly all the time, just like you say you do & plus, I have a lot of issues regarding my outer appearance... And I feel I can't trust what he says because he is in love with me, he is obviously not going to see me ugly...but you know, true beauty shines when we are with people we love...so I guess when your boyfriend tells you that, he really means it, so believe it and good luck with him.
It's sweet that your boyfriend tells you that you are beautiful but you also have to know that for yourself. Look at yourself in the mirror and say 3 positive things that you LOVE about yourself in order to build up your confidence; it will work!
Beauty comes from within and it shines on the outside. Don't have such low self esteem about yourself. Like I said, it's good that your boyfriend tells you that you are beautiful, but you have to know that for yourself.
Work on building up your confidence and everything else will surely fall into place.
