The beautiful people syndrome says that good looking, well-dressed people who smile a lot get the fastest treatment in busy venues. How has that worked out in your experience?

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I don't know how frequent special treatment is, but I do have an anecdotal tidbit.

To test if pretty women get better service, especially at clothing boutiques, an actress put on a costume to look obese.  Her favorite store acted like she was invisible.  So how widespread is it?  I don't know.  She sure shocked the managers when she revealed herself!  I hope there's one less place that does that.

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Yin And Yang answered

I don't think I agree...... I have been the patient one and got wonderful treatment AFTER waiting my turn from the beautiful person. I have been the irate "ugly" person and got icky service. I have been the patient kind one who got treated like poop just because of the car I drove.... Ended up getting a free meal when the manager realized it was NOT me! Lol ! In other words I think it's about attitude more then looks ...... I hope! Lol!

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Yin And Yang
Yin And Yang commented
I wish I would have ordered something MORE then a silly little side salad! Pffft!
Didge Doo
Didge Doo commented
It's unthinkable that the man didn't have the good manners to apologise in person. A side salad just doesn't cut it. Still, I gotta admire your father-in-law's practical panel beating; Sometimes the old-fashioned way works best.

Thanks for sharing the story. :)
Yin And Yang
Yin And Yang commented
Lol! Thank you so much. I agree. I saw a couple kids cling to their mom and cry looking at my car. I saw a dad walking with his son in the cross walk cling him closer to his hip staring at my car. I heard a lot of whispers "mom what happened to that car!" "Shhhhh don't say anything! It must have been in an accident..... sorry" Lol! One of my favorites was a cop pulled me over. He approached the vehicle checking it out and said "is this YOUR vehicle?" I thought to myself "nah I just robbed a bank and this is my get away car" but I bit my tongue. He said he was pulling people over for drunk driving and saw the three children in the backseat and said but I can see you are not drinking. Lol! My niece said "Aunt Yin! I never saw a cop up close like this before!" And I said "oh I bet your dad would be thrilled to know his sweet innocent sister was the first to introduce you to a cop!" Lol
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Virginia Lou answered

Dear Didge,

Well I just have to say "bless them" to all the beautiful people, and I am glad it is working out for them to get all this fast treatment in busy venues...and I will keep bumbling along in my own way...

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Virginia Lou
Virginia Lou commented
Didge I actually think the 'beautiful people' premise is prolly true...
However the strongest emotion I can muster would be a tiny fleeting irritation that so many people have goofy priorities.

To me, someone like you is so clearly preferable to those beautiful people that I cannot even find the words.
Didge Doo
Didge Doo commented
Aww, you're just being kind, Virginia. I don't really have any trouble getting served. (Like Dorian Gray, I have a portrait at home that gets uglier by the year as I continue to show my youthful good looks.) I'm pushy enough to make sure I get my turn. :)
Virginia Lou
Virginia Lou commented
O thank heaven for that, I am definitely relieved that your good looks continue on! As you can tell I REALLY believe it is REALLY important to fit in and be one of the "beautiful people."
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PJ Stein answered

Every busy venue I have been to had a line and your place in line got you your service at whatever speed. The only exception to that, that I am aware of, would be high end nightclubs in large metropolitan areas. Back in the day Studio 54 was notorious for that. You either had to be an A list celebrity or looked like one. I personally have never cared to go any place like that. I just assume go someplace that had smart and interesting people instead.

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Didge Doo
Didge Doo commented
We have some places in Oz where people line up and a few where you take a ticket and wait your turn, but mostly we just crowd up to the counter and try to look hopeful.
PJ Stein
PJ Stein commented
At counter situations, I find a friendly smile and manners get me service quickest. A decent tip helps for the next round.
Didge Doo
Didge Doo commented
We don't do a lot of tipping in Oz. :)
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Ray Dart answered

I am old, have uncontrollable hair, I wear whatever is comfortable and clean when I get up in the morning. I probably do not look like anyone worthy of any special treatment.  (I am OK with that).

When I open my mouth and the "Slightly Posh" "Horribly English" voice comes out, everything changes.

It even used to be like that in the US.

Develop an English accent everyone - it opens doors!

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Didge Doo
Didge Doo commented
Hmm, maybe my next question should be a quote from 'Enry 'Iggins: "An Englishman's way of speaking absolutely classifies him; whenever he speaks he makes some other Englishman despise him." And he doesn't even bother to say anything about *sigh* Australian accents.
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Tom Jackson answered

Thanks, Didge.

I've wondered all my life why I always receive preferential treatment in such situations.

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Tom  Jackson
Tom Jackson commented
OH, Didge---He loves sinners. Only Mary and Jesus never sinned.

And the doors are always open.
Didge Doo
Didge Doo commented
I could tell you a story about that, Tom, but I'm feeling benign this morning. :)

Besides, I think Americans are going to need all the good will they can get over the next 24 hours.
Tom  Jackson
Tom Jackson commented
OK---I can wait until Wednesday, Didge.
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Ancient Hippy answered

My wife called me while I was working and said to meet her at Smith's furniture store on the way home. I was filthy from working on a foundation that day and she was wearing overalls and not looking like a fashion statement. When we walked in, we got a lot of stares from the sales people but not a one would wait on us, they just sort of shuffled away. After about 20 minutes, an older gentleman asked if we needed any help and we nodded. He spent the next hour with us while we bought a complete living room set and an entire dining room set, that would seat 14 people. We spent about $10k, BUT, it turns out that the older gentleman was the owner of the store and he announced over the intercom that he was refunding to us a certain percentage that normally would go to the salesperson as commission.

Don't judge a book by it's cover has served me well over the years.

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Jaimie JT answered

It's worked out well in my experience :p

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Didge Doo
Didge Doo commented
Of course, Jaimie. But then, I'd expect no less for one of the beautiful people. :)
Jaimie  JT
Jaimie JT commented
Yeah :) but at least I'm humble about being oh so very good looking ;p

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